Alternatives to Traditional
Services
Today, there are many ways to
organize and conduct celebrations which acknowledge that a
life has been lived and that a death has occurred. Some
personalized formats that are commonly used include: a service
or party at a workplace, favorite park, or camping spot, or an
open house at a favorite gathering place. Other formats might
include a sports event, a dinner, an art show, or other events
reflective of the life of the deceased and dedicated to them.
At these gatherings, family members or friends may present a
program of reminiscence (REM-MIN-ISS-ENCE), where they
exchange favorite stories of the deceased and reflect on the
contributions made by that person. An important facet of any
of these alternative service events is to acknowledge the
mourning process, and acknowledge the death and the loss that
follows. It is also important to encourage the expression of
feelings, and speak directly about the individual life that
has been lived. There are no absolute standards for an
alternative service. An experienced funeral director will be
willing to help you explore the alternatives which are best
for your family.
For more details on alternatives
to traditional services,
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Funeral Home at (954) 587-6888 or at E-Mail
Death Away From Home
Because people in our society
travel so frequently, it is not uncommon for death to occur
away from home. In such cases, survivors should contact a
funeral director in the area where the funeral will take
place. The director can make all the necessary arrangements
and contact the appropriate individuals to ensure that
everything is taken care of properly where the death occurred.
The funeral director knows what services are needed and can
coordinate all the details, both where the death occurred and
at home. This not only makes this difficult process easier,
but working exclusively with one funeral director will also
reduce the cost involved. Being prepared for the possibility
of death away from home may involve meeting with a funeral
director in your area. Their help can be invaluable in the
case of this unexpected circumstance.
For more details on death away
from home,
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Death Benefits
When a loved one dies, survivors
may be eligible for benefits from Social Security or the
Veterans Administration. The qualifications for Social
Security benefits depend on age, marital status, number of
dependents, and whether the deceased contributed to Social
Security. It is important to remember that the payment of
Social Security benefits is not automatic; survivors must
apply for benefits through the Social Security Administration.
However, most funeral homes now file the needed forms for you,
or will assist you in determining what benefits are available
to you and how to receive them. Benefits from the Veteran's
Administration are available to any honorably discharged
individual, surviving spouse, and children of the veteran.
These benefits include an American flag, a grave marker, and
in some cases military honors. If a veteran and spouse are
buried in a national cemetery, they will also receive a grave
space and the minimum outer burial container called a grave
liner.
For more details on death
benefits,
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(954) 587-6888 or at E-Mail
About caskets
Caskets are generally used for
visitations and funeral services. They may be made of wood or
metal and are available in a wide range of styles and prices.
Caskets made of wood are usually constructed of mahogany,
walnut, cherry, maple, or oak. They are distinguished by the
choice of finish, styling, and fabric that is used to line the
casket. The cost of hardwood caskets varies according to the
type and thickness of the wood, the cloth selected for the
interior, and the details of the craftsmanship. Metal caskets
are usually made from bronze, copper, or steel. The price
difference between metal caskets is determined by the
thickness of the metal, and the type of cloth selected to line
the interior.
For more details on
caskets,
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Cemetery Services
Cemeteries generally provide
several kinds of services, including earth burials. Cemeteries
usually give you the choice of single or double occupancy of
the grave, or above the ground burial in a garden or in indoor
mausoleums. Many cemeteries also offer earth burial for
cremated remains, often in specially designed gardens. Also
available is above ground placement of cremated remains in a
garden or in indoor columbariums(KAHL-UM-BARE-EE-UMZ). A
Columbarium is a structure of vaults lined with recesses for
urns. When selecting a cemetery, remember you will be
entrusting it with a precious part of your heritage and
dealing with it for many years. You may wish to look for
well-maintained grounds and a friendly, confident, and
knowledgeable staff; and a willingness to show and discuss
with you a wide range of options and prices. In addition, you
might want to seek recommendations from such sources as
neighbors, the Better Business Bureau and other consumer
groups.
For more details on cemetery
services,
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Should Children Attend The
Funeral?
The death of a loved one can be a
very confusing and bewildering experience for children.
Attendance of the funeral may be helpful for a child to
realize the finality of death, and also allows the child to
share in the emotional experience with the family. However,
you should not insist that they attend. Let the children
express sorrow in their own way and do not force ideas on
them, such as grieving or funeral attendance. Talk with
younger children. If they want to attend the funeral, prepare
them for the experience and answer any questions they may
have. Many funeral homes have brochures or helpful videos that
can help provide you answers to questions children might have.
For more details on children
attending a funeral,
contact T. M.. Ralph Plantation
Funeral Home at (954) 587-6888 or at E-Mail
Coping with Anticipated Death
When a death is anticipated, there
are a number of things that can be done in advance to ease the
impact of the death on those loved ones left behind. One such
thing is to discuss how that individual would like for their
remains to be laid to rest and what kinds of services would be
preferred. With time to plan, several options can be fully
researched to ensure that the loved one's needs are best met.
Planning early may also aid in getting the best price for the
service required. This may occur because one is investigating
all options at a time that is not as emotional. Supplying
family and friends with prearranged tasks may also aid in
easing some of the burden and to add support to those most
close. Preparing for anticipated death may be hard for those
left behind, but knowing that a loved one's last wish was
carried out with your help may be the best way of coping with
their death.
For more details on coping with
anticipated death,
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Home at (954) 587-6888 or at E-Mail
Costs of Funeral
Services
Most funeral homes offer funerals
ranging from simple to elaborate, with pricing to match.
Often, there is a flat fee that may include the coffin,
preparation of the body for burial, and procedures such as
filing the death certificate and putting notices in the
newspaper. You may obtain an itemized list of what the package
includes to find out which costs are extra and what other
details you must take care of yourself. Funeral costs can
generally be put into four categories: the merchandise
purchased for the funeral, such as caskets and memorial
folders; the professional services of the funeral director,
who handles the details of the funeral service; the use of the
funeral home, equipment, and staff; and finally, the
transportation required for the funeral. It is important to
realize that within each of these categories, there are
choices you may make based on the deceased's wishes for the
funeral and your budget. Because the costs involved with
funerals change over time, it is best to contact a funeral
home to discuss options and prices with them. The funeral home
can provide you with their current general price list, which
should itemize the costs associated with funerals.
For more details on costs of
funeral services,
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Home at (954) 587-6888 or at E-Mail
Cremation Services
Cost
Because there are so many service
options available with cremation, an accurate cost is not
possible to make. The family has the option to select as much,
or as little, as they wish with cremation. Several factors,
however, can influence the cost of the cremation. If a wake or
church service is planned before the cremation, a casket is
needed. Most crematories (CREAM-uh-tories) require a rigid,
combustible container and usually will not accept plastic or
fiberglass. If a non-combustible casket is chosen for viewing,
an alternative container would need to be purchased for the
cremation, increasing the cost. However, in such situations,
it is often possible to rent a casket for viewing, at about
half the cost of purchasing the casket. If a wake or viewing
is not chosen, and if economy and simplicity are a concern,
there are many types of containers acceptable for cremation.
Containers can be made from pine, plywood and pressboard. The
least expensive containers are typically labeled "alternative
containers". These alternative containers are generally made
of heavy cardboard and fulfill the crematory requirements. The
final resting place of the remains is also a factor in the
cost of cremation. There are various costs associated with the
cremation process itself, including advance payment before the
cremation occurs. Other costs include the purchase of an urn
for permanent containment and a final resting place for the
remains. A columbarium (KAHL-um-BARE -um), which is a building
or structure for cremated remains, where single niche (nitsh)
spaces or family units can be selected or burial lot may be
purchased. The extent and the content of the cremation service
is up to the family, and helps to determine the costs.
For more details on cremation
services,
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Is There a Difference in Funeral
Homes?
The services provided by funeral
homes will vary slightly from one to another. The facilities
associated with funeral homes may offer different burial
options such as traditional cemeteries or memorial parks and
gardens. Pre-arrangement services are available through most
funeral home facilities, but will vary in detail and price
structure. Pre-arrangement is a good way to familiarize
yourself with a particular funeral home, the services it
offers, and its facilities and staff. Most funeral homes
provide the services of an experienced funeral director who
will make arrangements for the funeral, file documents
pertaining to the deceased, and assist survivors in selecting
burial options that may not have been pre-arranged. Some
funeral homes even offer support groups and special programs
for survivors who need help coping with their loss.
For more details on differences
in funeral homes,
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What Do Funeral Directors
Do?
The primary role of a funeral
director is to assist and serve people experiencing the death
of a loved one. Usually this is immediately after the death
has occurred, but increasingly it involves planning ahead of
the time of need. The funeral director relieves the family of
many details. The director transports the body to the funeral
home, arranges for the wake and gets information to the proper
authorities for the death certificate. The funeral director
places obituary notices in newspapers and helps fill out claim
forms for Social Security survivors benefits, Veterans
benefits, and life insurance. He or she also secures the
location for the funeral and arranges for someone to officiate
the service. On the day of the funeral, the director takes
care of transportation and other logistics. The funeral
director is also responsible for preparing the body of the
deceased for the service and making certain that its
presentation fulfills the wishes of the family. In all of
these activities, the funeral director is the primary
organizer and counselor to the survivors of the deceased.
For more details on what funeral
directors Do,
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What is Embalming?
The cells of the human body begin
decomposition immediately after death. Embalming is the
process of sanitizing and chemically treating the body of the
deceased. This process retards decomposition of the body, and
restores an acceptable physical appearance, which is often
necessary to allow family members time to gather for funeral
services. When there is to be a viewing of the body, either
public or by the family, embalming restores a more healthful
physical appearance. This preparation helps modify and remove
signs of accidents or disease, and can provide survivors a
more acceptable memory of the deceased. Embalming is the first
step in the process of preparing the body of the deceased for
viewing. Embalming is usually not required in cases of
immediate burial or immediate cremation, and for some
religious groups who bury within twenty-four hours of death.
Most funeral homes require embalming if there is to be a
public viewing, if the body is to be kept more than
twenty-four hours, or if the body is to be transported across
state lines. In addition to embalming, preparation of the body
also includes shaving, hair dressing, make-up, dressing, and
placing the body in the casket prior to viewing and services.
For more details on
embalming,
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Explaining death to
children
Experiencing the death of a family
member can be very different for younger members of the
family. Young children may recover from the death of a loved
one very quickly. Most children under three years of age have
no concept of death and they may not fully understand the
finality of death until approximately age nine. Therefore, it
is important to handle the situation carefully. Talk with the
child and try to help them understand that although the
deceased will no longer be with you, that death is a natural
part of everyday life. Let the child ask questions, and guide
them through any grieving process, reassuring them and
answering their questions. A funeral home can advise you on
helping your child cope with the death of a loved one.
Resources such as books and brochures are available that can
help you and the child through what can be a difficult and
confusing time.
For more details on explaining
death to children,
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Home at (954) 587-6888 or at E-Mail
Shipping to a foreign
country
Because many people choose to be
returned to their native land upon their death, foreign
shipping is rapidly becoming a common occurrence for funeral
homes. Most countries have certain requirements to meet in
order for the return of human remains to be permitted. These
include some or all of the following: certified copies of the
death certificate, a notarized embalmer's or funeral
director's affidavit, a health department certification, and
special casket requirements. Family members often express the
desire to accompany their deceased loved one on the same
flight. A funeral director can ensure that all arrangements
are made to secure safe passage of your loved one to almost
any destination around the world.
For more details on shipping to a
foreign country,
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Home at (954) 587-6888 or at E-Mail
What is a funeral?
A funeral is a gathering of family
and friends who come together to honor the memory of a loved
one who has died. Funerals provide an important rite of
passage. Similar to rituals which mark other transitions in
life--such as baptisms, graduations, and weddings-- funerals
provide a time for family and friends to celebrate the life of
the loved one and share their feelings concerning the loss of
this person in their lives. Coming together like this helps
people accept the death, which is a critical part of adjusting
to the loss. Funerals can be as unique as the people planning
them. While they are often held at churches, synagogues
(SIN-a-gahgs), or funeral homes, they may be held in any
location requested by the family. Funerals that remember the
loved one in personal ways can be very healing. We all carry
memories and it is helpful to share these memories through
readings, music, or other forms. Funerals are an important
ritual in our lives. They affirm our basic beliefs about life
and death, and help us through our loss.
For more details on
funerals,
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Why have a funeral?
Commemorating the important events
which occur throughout the course of our lives is important to
most of us. Christenings and baptisms, graduations from high
school and college, weddings, birthday and anniversary
celebrations, and funerals are all examples of important
events. These events are acknowledged through some form of
ritual or ceremony. Funerals, like other events in our lives,
serve a valuable function by providing a time and place for
commemorating and acknowledging the life of an individual who
has died. Funerals confirm and reinforce the reality of death,
assist in the expression of grief and feelings of loss, begin
the process of reintegrating the bereaved (bih-REEVED) back
into the community, and convey our values and beliefs
regarding the meaning of life and death. Funerals may be as
unique as the individual whose life they celebrate. A funeral
director can provide many suggestions and options for ensuring
that a funeral, for a loved one or for yourself, truly honors
and celebrates the life that was led.
For more details on
funerals,
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How to Handle Grief
The loss of a loved one or a close
friend can be one of the most difficult times we ever face.
The grieving process happens over time and is an essential
part of coping with a loss. Grief is first felt as a numbness
and inability to accept the loss, followed by shock as the
reality sets in. There may be a period of emotional distress
that includes depression, despair, and anxiety. The most
intense period of grief usually lasts a month or two and then
begins to lessen. Grief is different for everybody and needs
to be experienced in our own way. Talking with loved ones and
friends about what you feel can help you through grief. Don't
hide your feelings, as this can make the grieving longer and
more difficult. You may even want family or friends to take on
daily tasks around the house such as cleaning and shopping.
Church or community support groups are often valuable because
members can share similar losses and provide understanding and
encouragement. Funeral homes often have resources to help
those who have experienced the loss of a loved one.
For more details on how to handle
grief,
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Funeral Homes
When a death occurs, most people
opt to use a funeral home as a facility to guide them through
their time of emotional distress. If a funeral home is needed,
they will assist you in making decisions such as what type of
casket, the location of the burial service, who is to conduct
it, whether the body is to be embalmed, whether to have an
open casket, and whether the body is to be buried or cremated.
To assure that you choose a facility that best fits your
needs, call to get price and service quotations. They are
required by law to give them to you over the phone. Most
funeral directors offer funerals ranging from simple to
elaborate. Often, there is a flat fee that includes the
coffin, preparation of the body, the filing of the death
certificate and a notice in the newspaper. Be sure to ask
exactly what is included, what costs extra, and what details
you will need to take care of yourself. Preplanning is an
option offered by funeral homes that allows one to make
arrangements for his or her own funeral before death. This
spares relatives from having to make such arrangements in a
time when they are bereaved.
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homes,
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Selection of the
monument
The selection of the monument or
grave marker is an important decision because the memorial
will stand as a tribute, marking the last resting place of a
loved one. In making such a decision, consideration should be
given to the quality and permanence of the materials used. A
funeral director can provide descriptions of a wide variety of
memorials that may be appropriate. Memorials may be purchased
from any source, however, be sure to check the cemetery's
rules and regulations to determine whether there are any
restrictions on the types of memorials that may be used.
Purchasers should consider the permanency of the supplier,
since they may well be required at a later date to cut the
death date on the stone, add a companion scroll, or perhaps
supply a matching memorial. Prices vary greatly, depending on
whether a stone or bronze memorial is allowed. Monuments have
a wide range of prices. Bronze memorials generally are more
uniform in price and size.
For more details on selecting a
monument,
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Prepaying for
funerals
Preplanning and prepaying for
funerals enables you to make decisions and financial
arrangements more calmly than your family may be able to at
the time of your death. By researching and choosing among the
various burial options, caskets and other needs in advance,
you have the peace of mind knowing what will happen after your
death. Your family also will be assured that your funeral will
be conducted according to your wishes. A prearranged funeral
usually requires a fixed, up-front fee. In most cases, you can
pay this fee in one lump sum, in several installments, or by
purchasing an insurance policy specifically designed to cover
funeral expenses. In this case, your money is placed in a
trust fund to cover your burial costs. Most policies also
protect you against future price increases for funerals and
related services. This ensures that your family will not have
to raise funds to cover your burial at a time that may be
difficult for them to do so.
For more details on pre-paying
for funerals,
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Pre-planning
Funerals
By pre-planning and filing a
funeral plan with a funeral home, you provide several major
courtesies for your survivors. Your family will know for sure
what your wishes are, as most people discuss the plan once its
completed. Your survivors will be bound legally to follow your
wishes, unless extenuating (x-STEN-u-ayting) circumstances
prevent it. The funeral home or cemetery will then become your
agent, ensuring that your plans are carried out. If you have
set money aside to pay for services, you will have also saved
your family from the financial burden of funeral expenses
during an emotional time in their lives. There are dozens of
separate decisions and choices to be made when death occurs.
Most of these can be made in advance and kept on record at the
funeral home. The funeral director can show you a complete
list of services and merchandise available as well as current
pricing. You can also decide about visitation or wake plans,
and how and where the funeral is to be held. Some people
select their casket, vault, memorial folders, and prayer cards
in advance. Each individual can decide how many decisions
about their funeral they wish to make in advance. Prefinancing
is also helpful in preventing inflation. Most prefinancing
arrangements made with funeral homes either guarantee the
final expense or make provisions for growth in the
account.
For more details on pre-planning
funerals,
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When There is a Problem with a
Cemetery or Funeral Home
If a cemetery or funeral home has
not lived up to your expectations, the first step should be to
contact them and explain the problem. While there may indeed
be a problem, experience has shown that may disagreements with
cemeteries and funeral homes are in fact a difference in
understanding of what was to be done. A bereaved person may be
very emotional following a death and it may be difficult to
communicate details about the funeral or burial. Therefore,
cemeteries and funeral directors may make assumptions based on
their experience without making sure that those assumptions
are shared by the customer. The facility may do something
different from what the customer is used to or has experienced
in the past. Because of the emotions surrounding a death,
small differences may assume major proportions. If your
contact with the funeral home or cemetery does not yield
satisfactory results, you may wish to contact a trade
association. They may be able to resolve a conflict or
disagreement. For questions or disputes regarding cemeteries,
you can call the Cemetery Consumer Service Council at (703)
391-8407.
For more details on problems or
questions with funeral homes,
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Plantation Funeral Home at (954) 587-6888 or at E-Mail
Resources For Other
Questions
The death of a loved one can be a
very difficult adjustment for many people. Experiencing this
type of loss can disrupt relationships with other family
members and change your way of life. Survivors may need help
in getting on with their day-to-day activities. They may also
be faced with concerns, both emotional and financial, and have
important issues to discuss. Lack of support during the
mourning process can prolong depression for those left behind.
Many resources are available in the community to assist people
in making adjustments and coping with the death of a loved
one. You may want to consider private counseling or join a
support group with other individuals experiencing similar
emotions. Many cemeteries and funeral homes can assist people
with the problems and questions they have when a death occurs,
or they can refer you to resources where you can find help.
Many books, videos and brochures have been written and
produced on the subject of death and grieving. Check with your
T. M.. Ralph Plantation Funeral Home or a local bookstore to
find the materials you need.
For more details on other
resources, click
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Memorial Services and
Receptions
The deceased or their survivors may
not belong to a community that has a defined funeral service,
or they may be in a situation where a traditional service
would be inappropriate. In these cases, memorial services and
receptions can be chosen as an alternative to traditional
services. These events are less formal than traditional
services. Most funeral homes will provide facilities for
receptions or can assist you with arranging them. As a focal
point of the service, pictures of the deceased, memorabilia
from his or her life, hobby items or mementos may be brought
to the place of gathering. This is a way of focusing on the
life of the person being remembered. Memorial services can be
held in a funeral home, church, private home, or almost any
place of community gathering. Receptions, where coffee and
cookies or more elaborate food is provided, may follow
memorial services , or may be the principle form of the
remembrance service. Receptions give family and friends an
opportunity to support each other in their loss, to renew
relationship bonds and to formalize new relationships which no
longer include the active participation of the deceased.
For more details on memorial
services,
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(954) 587-6888 or at E-Mail
Expressing Your
Sympathy
When a death occurs, there are
different ways of expressing your sympathy to the family of
the deceased. The most common way of expressing sympathy is to
attend the funeral or memorial service and send flowers to the
survivors. In addition to traditional flower arrangements,
there are other ways to express sympathy and remember the
deceased person. You may find a favorite memento associated
with the person to present to the bereaved family. Teenagers
sometimes attend the funeral of a friend wearing T-shirts with
the deceased friend's name on them. The best way to convey
sympathy is to be sincere and be natural. Talk with the
mourners and let them know how you feel. You may be
uncomfortable about what to say, but mourners are seldom
offended by honest expressions of support. Send a personal
card to the family expressing your feelings about the
deceased. Comfort and support will be more appreciated than an
expensive gift. Consider sending flowers to the home or
sending a plant or shrub that can be planted in memory of the
deceased. The best gift to give is yourself and your support.
For more details on expressing
your sympathy,
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Traditional Funeral
Services
A traditional funeral service is a
type of service that a particular family, ethnic, or religious
group has established as being compatible with its beliefs and
traditions. In most of these groups, a traditional funeral
service includes several common elements. A gathering of
family and community is held at a church or funeral home, most
often with the casketed body present. The casket may be open
or closed, and there is generally a defined order of service.
The service is often followed by the burial, but in some
traditions, may be followed by cremation. The service is
normally organized by custom, tradition, or religious law to
provide structure for the mourning and grief process, and
speaks about the death and loss. The traditional service
usually has a time limit, but is also flexible to meet the
individual needs of the survivors. Traditional services are
group-centered, with family, friends, and members of the
community of the deceased invited to participate. A wide range
of services, from simple to elaborate, are available.
Regardless of the type of funeral service, acknowledging the
death of a loved one can be important to the future adjustment
of the survivors.
For more details on traditional
services,
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About Urns
Urns are used as a permanent
container for cremated remains. They can be made from a
variety of materials such as bronze, marble, porcelain,
ceramic and hardwoods, and are available in many shapes and
styles. The urn may be placed in a columbarium
(KAHL-um-BARE-um), which is a building or structure for
cremated remains, where single niche (nitsh) spaces or family
units may be selected. Niches are generally recessed
compartments enclosed by either glass protecting an engraved
urn or ornamental fronts upon which the names and dates are
inscribed. Urns may also be buried in family lots or, in many
cemeteries, there are specially designed areas for the
interment (in-ter-MENT) of urns, called urn gardens. Urns may
also be kept at the home of a survivor, in remembrance of the
deceased. If the family chooses to scatter the cremated
remains, the family may keep the urn in any of these places as
a memorial to the deceased.
For more details on
urns,
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587-6888 or at E-Mail
Viewing the Deceased
Permitting family and friends to
view the body of the deceased at a visitation or wake, or
during the funeral service can be a valuable experience. The
most important reason for viewing the body is to help people
accept the reality of the death that has occurred. An
important part of the grieving process is the acceptance of
loss, and viewing the body may be a cathartic way to help
survivors toward acceptance, and to start the process of
healthful mourning. A funeral director will discuss the option
of viewing the body with the immediate family when services
are being planned. The survivors may choose whether the casket
is to be open or closed during the public visitation and
funeral. Insisting that a person, especially a child, view the
body is not recommended. Children have many questions
concerning death, and it is often helpful for them to view the
body and receive factual answers. However, viewing the body is
a personal choice for both adults and children, and no one
should be forced to do so against their will. Viewing the body
can be an important part of the funeral experience. Talking
with a funeral director about your thoughts and concerns can
help you reach an understanding of what choices would be best
for your family.
For more details on viewing the
deceased,
contact T. M.. Ralph Plantation Funeral Home at
(954) 587-6888 or at E-Mail
What is a funeral?
A funeral is a gathering of family
and friends who come together to honor the memory of a loved
one who has died. Funerals provide an important rite of
passage. Similar to rituals which mark other transitions in
life--such as baptisms, graduations, and weddings-- funerals
provide a time for family and friends to celebrate the life of
the loved one and share their feelings concerning the loss of
this person in their lives. Coming together like this helps
people accept the death, which is a critical part of adjusting
to the loss. Funerals can be as unique as the people planning
them. While they are often held at churches, synagogues
(SIN-a-gahgs), or funeral homes, they may be held in any
location requested by the family. Funerals that remember the
loved one in personal ways can be very healing. We all carry
memories and it is helpful to share these memories through
readings, music, or other forms. Funerals are an important
ritual in our lives. They affirm our basic beliefs about life
and death, and help us through our loss.
For more details on what a
funeral is,
contact T. M.. Ralph Plantation Funeral Home at
(954) 587-6888 or at E-Mail
What To Do When Death
Occurs
When death occurs and the proper
authorities have been notified, the decision of how the
remains should be laid to rest needs to be made. If a loved
one has opted to preplan his or her funeral, then you should
contact the funeral home and have their wishes carried out. If
no preparation has taken place, then there are several options
that will need to be considered such as where and how the
remains are handled and what type of service is desired.
Outlining what is important to you or what your family has
traditionally done is a good way to help with your decision.
It is not legally necessary to use the services of any outside
resources such as a funeral home or cemetery; however, for
practical reasons most people opt to. In most cases, the
funeral director should be able to help with the preparation
of the body, aiding in the services, filing the death
certificates and putting the notices in the newspaper. Because
several different options and services are available, it is
wise to get price quotes. Price quotations can be given over
the phone by law. It may also be wise to talk with someone who
is not as personally involved with the deceased to help you
decide on the arrangements.
For more details on what to do
when death occurs,
contact T. M.. Ralph Plantation Funeral
Home at (954) 587-6888 or at E-Mail
What Is Cremation?
Cremation (CREE-may-shun), like
burial or entombment (in-TOOM-ment), is an option for handling
the deceased's body. Cremation occurs when the body is placed
in a cremation chamber, where through intense heat and
evaporation, the body is reduced to its basic elements. These
basic elements are generally referred to as cremated remains
or cremains (CREE-mains). Although the cremated remains are
commonly referred to as ashes, the remains are actually bone
fragments. The bone matter, which usually weighs between three
to seven pounds, is then removed from the chamber and placed
on a metal tray for processing. Processing removes all foreign
matter from the cremation container that are generally mixed
with the cremains. Then, the bone fragments are further
reduced into very small fragments. The cremains are then
placed in temporary containers and shipped to their
destination. Most remains are sent to a local funeral home who
is responsible for getting them to the deceased's family.
For more details on
cremation,
contact T. M.. Ralph Plantation Funeral Home at
(954) 587-6888 or at E-Mail
Cremation Services
There are several preplanning
decisions to consider if choosing cremation. Will there be a
service for viewing the deceased before cremation? A wake or
visitation hours can be arranged with a funeral home just as
they are for earth burial or entombment (in-TOOM-ment).
Although a casket is not required for cremation, if a viewing
is chosen before the cremation, a casket can be rented or one
that is combustible can be purchased for the cremation. Few
crematories (CREAM-uh-tories) will accept plastic or
fiberglass caskets. Cremation can be considered as an end in
itself, but most families feel the remains should have a final
resting place that can be identified with names and dates.
This is called memorialization (MEM-or-ee-uhl-IZ -ay-shun).
Many urns are available for permanent containment of the
cremated remains. The urn can be placed in a columbarium
(KAHL-um-BARE -ee-um), which is a building or structure for
cremated remains, where single niche (nitsh) spaces or family
units may be purchased for burial. Many cemeteries have
specially designed areas, called urn gardens, for this
purpose. Scattering the remains is also an option, and can be
legally done in most areas. Some crematories have scattering
gardens. These allow the deceased's wishes to be carried out,
yet allow the family some form of memorialization because they
are assured the site chosen will not be developed for another
use at a later time. Often, these scattering gardens have the
option of personal memorials.
For more details on cremation
services ,
contact T. M.. Ralph Plantation Funeral Home at
(954) 587-6888 or at E-Mail
Cemeteries
A cemetery is a place where a loved
one may be buried. Many people choose to have a burial plot in
a cemetery because it provides a physical place for family and
friends to gather in memory of a deceased loved one. The most
common cemetery sites are churchyard or synagogue
(SIN-uh-gahg) cemeteries, municipal cemeteries, or commercial
plots. If a cemetery is needed, in most cases, you will need
to contact either a funeral director or a cemetery
superintendent. They are the people who make all of the
arrangements, such as time of burial, and will provide
information on the particular policies of that cemetery. One
policy that most cemeteries require to prevent the ground from
settling after burial is the use of either a grave liner or a
coffin. A grave liner is made up of concrete slabs that are
assembled at the grave site. A coffin is a one piece unit that
is usually made of concrete, metal or fiberglass. Grave liners
are generally less expensive than coffins. Another item that
is needed for burial in a cemetery is a marker for the grave.
The style and type chosen will determine the marker's price.
As with any purchase, investigate the full range of
alternatives and policies to find what is best for you or your
loved one.
For more details on
cemeteries,
contact T. M.. Ralph Plantation Funeral Home at
(954) 587-6888 or at E-Mail
Coping with Anticipated
Death
When a death is anticipated, there
are a number of things that can be done in advance to ease the
impact of the death on those loved ones left behind. One such
thing is to discuss how that individual would like for their
remains to be laid to rest and what kinds of services would be
preferred. With time to plan, several options can be fully
researched to ensure that the loved one's needs are best met.
Planning early may also aid in getting the best price for the
service required. This may occur because one is investigating
all options at a time that is not as emotional. Supplying
family and friends with prearranged tasks may also aid in
easing some of the burden and to add support to those most
close. Preparing for anticipated death may be hard for those
left behind, but knowing that a loved one's last wish was
carried out with your help may be the best way of coping with
their death.
For more details on coping with
anticipated death,
contact T. M.. Ralph Plantation Funeral
Home at (954) 587-6888 or at E-Mail
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